As humans, we think that we own everything that "we have." We don't own anything, not a person, not an object, not a result. So why should we feel that our happiness depends on something that is not ours? We should just enjoy the people, and the things that are with us while we have them.
This is a story about attachement, attachement to a girl's attention, attachememt to a result in a swim race.
Two years ago, the day before an important swim meet, I went to my best friend's house to join this important meditation session. I didn't really know anything about meditation back then, I only knew that the man guiding the meditation seemed a really wise guy, and he could tell me the answer to a questions that had been through my mind the whole time that I had been practicing for that swim meet, how could I be first?
So I went in there, sit on my butt for two hours listening to a one-sentence-Indian song, with my eyes closed and thinking how to approach that wise man so he could answer my question.
After the meditation was over, and everyone gather for the after party that included tea and vegetarian food, I finally had my chance to ask the wise guy for advice.
I went up to him and told him, "hey, I really enjoyed your meditation (I actually didn't enjoy it) I have a swim meet tomorrow, I have trained a lot for it. Do you have any advice for me?!"
He stood in silence about five seconds and then he told me, "the warrior is more successful, when he fights for a hand full of soil" after that other people came offering tea so I couldn't talk to him anymore. Like the wise men in the movies, he dissapeared after saying a non-sense sentence.
I couldn't be more disappointed, I stayed two hours sitting in the floor, listening to Indian music, with all my body itching, in silence, and once I approached "the wise guy" he tells me one sentence that made no sense!!
Well, after some time, a beautiful girl helped me understand the sentence that the wise man told me before dissapearing into a crowd of vegetarians.
the key of enjoying something and succeeding at it, like the case of a swim race or dating a girl, is to be completely unattached from the result. Because being unattached, allow us to be spontaneous and act with our essence.
If we are free from the fear of loosing either race or the girl, we let ourselves be who we really are infront of the pool about to step on the block before the race, or infront of the girl before her smile, or perhaps a hug or a small kiss.
Then, we take the initiative. We step on the block, we have a chance to win the race. Then, we take the initiative, we say something, we have a change to make her smile. And once we dive into the pool, and into the conversation with the girl, we just let it happen. Body, mind, and soul connect. Each stroke in the swimming pool comes within our heart, each word in the conversation with the girl is totally spontaneous. Thoughts, words, and actions connect.
We keep swimming, we keep talking with the girl. And here it comes the first turn of the 50 yard freestyle final, and here it comes her first smile. It is a gift. There is no judging from our minds, nothing is wrong or bad.
We are not thinking on the result, we are not thinking either in the past or the future. We are in the present moment; is the only thing that matters.
We start swimming faster, enjoying reaching our limits. We start feeling comfortable, looking gently at her eyes, and with a smile asking her about her passions. We just want to make her feel safe and comfortable, is the only thing that matters. We just want to give our best effor in the pool, is the only thing that matters.
And when we make that last stroke and reach the time pad first than any other in the 50 yard freestyle final, and when you look at her eyes, and she looks at you with a smile, magic happens.
Then you, without thinking about it, became the champion of the 50 free yard final. Then you, without thinking about it, made her smile.
Because the warrior is more successful, when he fights for a hand full of soil. Because the warrior is more successful when he is unattached from the result and he acts with his heart.
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